Research shows us that conscious attempts to suppress or avoid thoughts, feelings, or memories will actually increase their intensity. So if you try to suppress an emotion, memory, or thought that you don’t like, it will just come back to you in spades. It’s another paradox: You can’t control which feelings, thoughts, memories, or sensations show up in the first place, but you can make them much worse by trying to suppress them.
The reason why you can’t avoid and run away from feelings the same way that you might run from or avoid dangerous objects or situations has to do with the source of the emotional pain. That source is you.
The bottom line is that your thoughts and feelings always go with you wherever you go. You cannot escape or avoid your feelings by going somewhere else for one simple reason: they are part of you. You take them with you everywhere, along with everything else going on inside your mind and body.
This leaves you with one option for emotional control: avoid situations and circumstances that might trigger these reactions. If you pursue this strategy, your life space shrinks as the number of things you must avoid expands. And the irony is that the mental events you’re trying to suppress are still there!
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